A friend asked me this weekend how they could dive into a new experience. They wanted to make a switch to a new job, but they would not directly say that. They kept saying how unhappy they were at their job and wish they could do something. This is one of my dearest friends, so I wanted to be a good friend; to me, being a good friend is being honest. I told her, “you’re not being honest for starters, you’re not asking me what you actually want to ask me.” They then said, “I think I hate my job, but I have so many financial responsibilities, so what do I do?”. Now we are ready to have an authentic conversation.
LET’S TALK INTEGRITY
How many times have you asked for someone’s advice, but not actually asked what you needed to? My guess is plenty of times. We all do it, we are scared of asking for what we really want or really need because we are scared of what the other person will say. Here’s the thing, they cannot help answer your question, if you do not ask it. If you are not getting the “right” answer, maybe you are not asking the correct question. If you’re not being honest with yourself, it’s going to be hard for someone to meet you where you are at, because you are not even there.
With all of that being said, let’s plunge into how you can dive into life…
6 WAYS TO DIVE INTO LIFE
1. Stop saying you will do it tomorrow
Let’s be honest, we both know you won’t. You will tell yourself you will do it this weekend and then one month passes and you forget about it. Here is something new to try: do it now. If you are thinking about doing something and do not have any other pressing matters, do it. You’ll feel that much better and empowered that you can do it in the future.
2. Stop using Snapchat for one day, just one
I think this applies to my generation more than others, but it astounds me how much time we spend on social media JUST SCROLLING. I have a task for you, lock up your phone for one hour, just one. Give yourself three tasks to finish in that hour and if you finish them, move onto the next tasks. Before you know it, you’ll have knocked out a lot of your tasks and your phone will be just where you left it.
3. Do something weird
I recently signed up to be a driver for Lyft and I could not be more excited to get started. I am all about experiences that are outside of your comfort zone. You’d be surprised how alive it makes you feel. Heck, I’ve even looked into being a professional cuddler. Life is short friends, don’t sit on your bed living with regrets when you can do something about it.
4. Talk to someone new in the elevator
This is normally one of my taboos, I don’t generally like people talking to me in elevators, because it is usually my time. Recently I have found a balance and I gotta say, you can meet some really cool people in elevators. I actually met one of my future mentors in an elevator months before we truly connected. One tip: read body language, if someone does not look like they want to chat, don’t force it.
5. Clean your room
What are we 16? Nope, but having a clean house and room has some crazy benefits. I can personally say that having an organized space allows to live a better life. I know where everything is, I feel like my life is more organized and I feel like I’ve accomplished something.
6. Stop the FOMO
Seriously, we need to get this under wraps. FOMO is the fear of missing out, essentially feeling like you are missing out on something great when you don’t go out with your friends or choose to stay in to recharge. I will say this, if someone is posting on social media multiple times about how much fun they are having, chances are they are not having that much fun. I’ve found that I only turn to social media when I’m out and about when I am actually bored. If I am having fun, I may check in or snap a quick pic, but rarely will I ever document a play-by-play of what my night was like. The reason is that everyone I want to be with is probably with me or I just want to give the people I am with my full attention
WHAT ABOUT YOU?
Do you agree with these tips? Which ones have worked for you or what tips do you live by? Comment below and let me know your thoughts.