Fear of missing out, you probably have heard of it or experienced it. I have found that it generally starts in adolescence, but has a sneaky way of clinging to adulthood. So, what is it? FOMO is the fear of missing out: “anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on a social media website”. I think we can all agree that social media has many benefits, but it has also caused a fair amount of damage. So, when we are sitting on our couch on a Friday night trying to relax, fear of missing out might creep up and tell us that our friends are having more fun than us.
You can imagine it would be hard to relax, because your mind is racing with all of the things you are missing out on. So, what do you do about it?
Combating fear of missing out
FOMO is very manageable, here are some tips on how to combat the beast:
- Stay off social media when you are trying to relax – unless you are looking at puppies
- Work on something that moves you towards your goals
- If you are not going out because of money, remind yourself why you are saving money
- Go to bed early so you can get a head start on the next day
- You are your worst enemy, chances are you are not missing out on anything at all
- If you really do want to go out, go out
- You’re trying to kick ass, start working towards having a better life instead of worrying about what others are doing with theirs
Bottom line, people are going to keep living their lives and that means that you need to keep living yours. If you’re following someone on social media and wishing that you had their life, go get it. Know that everything is not as it seems on social media, things become warped and look better than they are. If you are envying someone else’s life, take a hard look at what you envy about it. Chances are you are perceiving something that actually is not there.
Also, know that they may have advantages that you do not. You cannot control that, you can only control yourself. You are not your circumstances, but you can overcome them.